Hellooooo! I would like to formally introduce myself. My name is Amanda, and I am the Anti-Mom. You will come to find that I am not a mom hater, or that I hate babies and all things “mom”. But since finding out I was pregnant in August 2010, I vowed to myself I would never become one of “those” moms. And what exactly do I mean by one of “those” moms? The type of mom that doesn’t lose her identity just because she now has a child. I’ve met so many people that only talk about all things revolving around what little Jr. is doing. I don’t know about you but adult conversation is not an ancient language in my household! Having my beautiful daughter didn’t change that either! In fact, when my little bundle arrived in April 2011, it was more evident that I would never EVER be one of “those” moms. I didn’t do things the conventional way my entire life, why would having a baby change that?

Before becoming a SAHM, I worked in the internet marketing world for 6 years.  I met and worked with a lot of cool people who quickly became good friends. Most importantly I met my husband. Been together for 5 years and counting and couldn’t be happier. I was lucky enough to have his support when I decided I wanted quit working to raise our daughter. Took some convincing and womanly persuasion, but here we are!

I have read many of mom sites in preparation for my ‘lil munchkin and they all were great-very upbeat, happy, chipper-very all about the kids. That’s when it hit me square in the jaw that I was reading about my future life and it scared the shit out of me. I didn’t want to lose my self of being because I was now going to be a mom. I wanted to add to my identity, not take away the last 29 years of my life to start over as “Munchkin’s Mom”. Why did these women I was reading about do that? What about their lives before child? Did they forget about that?!?! and if they did WHY!!!!

I quickly realized it wasn’t these women that were different, it was me. Through out my whole pregnancy I wasn’t the normal happy, glowing pregnant woman. Why couldn’t I be that kind of chick? It took a lot of time and hormones for me to realize I wasn’t weird because I felt this way. This is who I am, who I’ve always been and its time to embrace being an Anti Mom!

Here’s to my journey to sanity and normalcy amongst the chaoticness of raising my first child.

– Amanda, the Anti Mom

13 thoughts on “About

  1. I had to read this page to see what your title really meant. Makes sense now! Thanks for stopping by http://www.mama-press.com. I too refuse to lose my old identity, and choose to grow as a smart, independent, productive person outside of my stay-at-home life. Maybe you could give me some Internet marketing tips!

  2. Thank you so much for sharing this, Amanda! I feel exactly the same way. I waited until I was 32 to have my first and I never wanted to lose my identity. I too am a SAHM now after leaving the corporate world, but I still need to be true to who I am. Great blog! I am your newest follower!

  3. I totally agree with you! I started kids young (and not on purpose), having my first right before I turned 21, and now at 27 have 4. Losing all the years of my 20’s is hard, and so I make sure people don’t just title me as ‘mom’ when they meet me. I’m so much more than ‘mom’. Although I love my kids dearly, I’m my own person and am so much more than just nose-wiping and diaper changing. It’s so nice to see that others feel the same way!!!

  4. And what a great mommy you are! I see soapy moms literally change who they are when having children. I am 1/2 and 1/2. I had to curtail some of my actions and others remained the same. Instead of the mommy mobile (minivan) I went for the Ford Flex. I do though raise my boys as men and speak to them like adults and absolutely no baby talk! Looking forward to reading your posts!

  5. Hi Amanda. I found you via Blog Hobnob and was immediately intrigued by your blog title. Alleluia for other women who refuse to allow themselves to be defined as someone’s ‘mum’, ‘wife’ or (in my case, and I can hardly believe it myself!) ‘Nanna’. As my ‘labels’ might suggest, my munchkin is now all grown up with a family of his own and I can honestly say my life has never revolved around him. Despite this, he has still grown up to be a happy, healthy, free-thinking and loving young man, of whom I am very proud

  6. I was really intrigued by your blog after you commented on mine- it’s been up on my browser for days waiting for me to actually get to reading it! Your title made me want to come back, haha :) I’m so glad I did! I don’t have kids yet, but watching people change who they are and seeing how their lives have changed have made me not want to have kids. I’m excited to have some good role models around, though, and to have found your site showing it’s possible :)

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