They say when you become a parent for the first time, you are extra cautious. You have top-of-the-line everything from your diapers to the stroller. The hottest baby gadgets to hit the market fill your home. Every baby book is read from cover to cover. Every sharp corner is cushioned and stairway gated. Come your second, things get a bit more lax. Whoops – the pacifier fell on the floor, but there is no need to worry, for the 5 second rule is always in effect. Somehow, our family did things backwards. Our first daughter was born and people would comment on how relaxed…